But as always, heaps of words LOL !!
I though I'd write about the words that have been spoken to me over the last 24 months and of course the ones I utter myself.
So many people have said these very words to me (on finding out I have a brain tumour),
" Jaz I just don't know what to say"
My answer; it's ok to say nothing. It's also ok (to me anyway) to ask questions. I've got myself to a good place and I don't mind sharing at all. I'm a teacher remember.................quite fond of talking :-)
Here is what I came up a few nights ago in my "beside the bed notebook" about the power of words.
Things that have been said to me that have been useful (or not).
What can I do to help?
I am so proud of you.
I can see how hard you are fighting/working.
We'll watch the kids, you go and sleep.
Here's my shoulder, go on, cry on it.
Here, I cooked you a meal.
You can't climb mountains before climbing up stairs!
Would you like a hug?
From now on regard each day as a gift!! (And that I do)
How are you?
I heard about this guy who died from a brain tumour last year who........
They're always coming up with new treatments you know.
You realise it could become a grade 3 one day (...........aaaah yep, I do)
We will never be able to safely remove it.
There is nothing we can do for your eyes.
This is a terminal condition (but isn't life??)
Are you all better now Mum?
I don't want you to die Mum.
We love you.
We love you.
You can go home now Jasmine
You are an inspiration, thank you.
We don't want to see you again for six months.
Makes you think doesn't it? It makes me think very carefully now about how I talk to people, especially when they are in need.
I'm thankful for these people and their words. The good, bad and ugly personalities of whom not all have had the nicest bedside manners. They have taught me a lot.